Creating Healthy Boundaries

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“Boundaries are part of self care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.” ~Doreen Virtue

A part of healing that has changed my life for the better is exploring my boundaries as I heal. I use to constantly feel beaten down and neglected by not just other people, but myself. I realized that I needed to develop more self-respect for myself, which physically came in the form of creating healthy boundaries.

We can’t please everyone and we’re not here to fix ourselves or other people, we are here to explore our human potential. Boundaries are a necessary part of the growth and transformation process we are constantly going through.

Implementing new boundaries isn’t always easy, especially when it means leaving relationships, a job, or maybe even moving out of the country. In order to create a healthier life for our/the self we must first explore what a healthy life looks like.

Ask yourself, what brings you peace and joy to your life? If there are certain people who weigh you down or maybe you’re at a job you have no passion for and a boss who always puts you in a victim role? It’s time to explore new possibilities for your well being.

The best gift you can give yourself is the gift of patience and transformation. Nothing is forever and while our world is constantly changing and shifting we are too. Assessing your boundaries is part of this process because although it’s invisible to the human life it determines a lot about your life especially your health and happiness.

Who are the type of people you are surrounding yourself with? Are you making time for you? Do you feel happy? You deserve to ask yourself these questions with the intention that you will work on making better choices for your overall health in the form of boundaries.

The first step to healing unhealthy boundaries is become aware of them and then allowing yourself the chance to repair them by making different choices. Healing is a journey of self-discovery and when you begin to explore your true loving, joyful nature you will find more joy and love come into your life as you make room for what really matters to you deep down.

At first it can feel scary, but as you begin to see positive shifts in your life from making changes with your boundaries it starts to become a little less overwhelming. It’s a process, take it slowly but it will change your life. Be open to what is waiting for you.

Practice speaking your truth. The more you speak your truth the more your boundaries will naturally shift into something really beautiful.

Over time as you begin to practice the art of healthy boundaries you begin to make choices conscious that are best for you, because remember what is best for you is usually best for the people around you. You deserve to discover joy and happiness in your life.


Repeat this mantra daily to begin to develop a healthy habit of setting boundaries.

I allow myself to set healthy boundaries. 

To say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does. 

Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and living a life that is true to me. 

About the author


Feeding The Heart is a blog and resource dedicated to empowerment for whole heart living after trauma. I'm a writer, trauma sensitive-informed yoga teacher, and a trauma survivor here to share my story and journey of holistically healing.

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