I have slowly come to discover and embrace that when we face our fears head on we always win. We begin to realize that we make our fears bigger than they really are. We have learned to run from fear. We hide from fear. We live in shame from fear. We stop living because of fear of fear.
Does this sound like you?
I lived in fear my entire childhood. I didn’t know who or what to trust. As I grew up I realized that while my fears were created to protect me they were actually holding me back from living my life to the fullest.
As I began to take more risks in my life to face my fears my life unfolded in a beautiful way. I realized I was living more in my head than in my body and it was mind that was holding me back from the living the life I truly desired. I built up in my head that if I did this, or said this, that my life would be over. I wasn’t facing my fears, I was running away from you. Too scared to confront them. Too ashamed to admit them.
I’ve always been inspired by the Eleanor Roosevelt quote,
“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.”
Eleanor Roosevelt did not come from a practically easy childhood. She struggled, fought and faced her fears to become the incredible person and woman she is remembered as. She saw fear as an opportunity to grow and learn.
As I began to open up and show my human side to people I found that people found my life had a purpose. I had attached so much shame and judgement to my thoughts of fear that until I started to actively practice living the life I desired I found that my fear was just a false sense of security I had been holding onto. The more I faced my fears the more they continued to dissolve. The more I transformed into the person I knew deep down I could become.
Facing your years is one of the most valuable experiences life has to offer. It will open new doors for you and shift your old, negative thinking into something empowering that allows you to grow and transform into the person you have dreamed of. Each day do something that scares you. Ask that cute guy or girl out on a date. Take an art class. Attend a yoga class. Tell someone you love them. Take an entire day for yourself. Face your fears so you can discover the amazing human being who hides behind them.
Fear keeps us focused on the past or worries about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of loved ones. ~Thich Nhat Hanh