Falling In Love With Yourself

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“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”~Buddha

Falling in love with yourself is a beautiful concept, but it has been lost. We are told to seek love outside of ourselves rather than be with the beauty of unconditional love inside ourself.

When we learn to love yourself everything falls into place because we realize that what you were trying to seek from other people, maybe the “perfect” job, a home, what you really wanted deep down was love for yourself. Sometimes we want someone else to love us first, but what if you started with loving yourself first rather than expecting someone else to do the work for you?

When you learn to love ourself the world changes for the better. No longer do you cling to negative thoughts and feelings about who you and waste your precious energy pretending to be someone you aren’t. You have fallen in love with ourself in the present moment and you take time to nourish yourself to grow into the beautiful being we know we already are.

Everyone wants to fall in love, but even more powerful than falling in love with another person is falling in love with yourself because the love you have for yourself can never be taken away.

Falling in love with yourself involves the same vulnerability as falling in love with someone else. If anything it’s even deeper.

When you learn to love yourself everything falls into place, because you know how to hold space for yourself with compassion and non-judgement.

When you fall in love with yourself you no longer attach labels and judgement to yourself. You don’t harm your self esteem by telling yourself you are not enough, because you know that all you are is enough. You are enough at every moment. It’s your mind that plays games and tricks into somehow believing that there is something is to prove being human.

You hold the key to unlocking your heart. 

Now, how do you fall in love with yourself? Well, how do you fall in love with someone else? Do the things that give you that feeling of joy and love to better connect with yourself like you would with someone else. For instance take yourself out to a nice dinner, or a spa date, or my favorite-write yourself love letters. You have to connect with yourself on a deeper and intimate level and love letters are a powerful way to connect.

You deserve to know and feel unconditional love for yourself. You also give other people permission to fall in love with themselves when they come across you. Deep down we are all longing for love, but instead of seeking it external from other people, places and jobs, we must learn to just be love.

When you learn to fall in love with yourself when you go out into the world you will no longer seek love, but you become love. You will find people that appreciate you rather than people, or an individual person, to complete you. You already know you are whole, but you must discover that for yourself first.

Falling in love with yourself is a constant process. Just like being in love with a lover or partner you have to constantly keep the energy alive and flowing. Sometimes it feels the flame has burnt out and with self love when you get to that point you have to go back to falling in love with yourself, over and over. Whatever that means for you take the time to do the inner work and get to know and understand yourself at the deepest level so that you can share your love with someone else.

When you love yourself you no longer run away from love but rather open your arms wide open to receive love and embrace all it has to offer with no conditions. Love doesn’t need a reason to give and it is love that is our most natural state of being.

If you can’t love yourself for who you are in this important, how can someone else truly? You are the most natural form of love and you deserve to shine from the inside out. Go on a journey to fall in love with yourself. Start today -start with saying beautiful words to yourself. Fill your mind with images that bring you joy and peace.

Be an embodiment of your own love. Be the love you seek.





About the author


Feeding The Heart is a blog and resource dedicated to empowerment for whole heart living after trauma. I’m a writer, trauma sensitive-informed yoga teacher, and a trauma survivor here to share my story and journey of holistically healing.

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