What does it mean to “hold space” for someone else?
It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.
We tend to seek out the perfect person, the perfect partner, rather than be our own person-as we are now. We look at what we can get out of a person rather than what we can learn from a friend, a lover, a partner and ask how we can hold space for them in our relationship. Not judge, but love completely unconditionally.
In our relationships we are constantly creating checklists rather than focusing on growing with a person with no expectations. Relationships aren’t about checklists, they are about having the courage and strength to grow together. To be with a wholly with a person person and to give ourself permission to be our own person.
Life is unpredictable and it can change in a matter of an instant, especially our relationships with one another.
We want the perfect partner in our life but what we don’t realize is that the perfect person and partner doesn’t exist. We are setting ourselves up for failure to expect this out of another person, even expecting perfection out of ourself.
Rather we must focus on being our authentic self and holding space for another person to be their authentic self. This is the true essence of a healthy and honest relationship.
We will never find a perfect partner-we will only find an authentic person to grow with. Are you allowing yourself to be authentic, vulnerable and honest?
If we are creating all of unrealistic checklists than we never really spend time opening our heart for someone to enter into our life. Is that the life we really want to live?
They say love will find you when you’re least expecting it and this is true because when you don’t expect you naturally open your heart up for someone to enter. You find love not when you want to, but when your heart is ready to open up to it.
There are no rule to finding love. There’s only patience, acceptance and being our authentic self that carries us through this process.
Open your heart up to unconditional love to not find love, but be love.