I Hold My Spacefeatured

“Only you can change; when you change, the world changes, because you look at it with different eyes.” ~Osho

I recently had a conversation with a friend that has greatly impacted me and how I identity with what I “do.” Shifting my mindset from a human doing to a human being.

After 3 hours, over a cup of caca tea, we both came to the conclusion that our reply to the question of what we “do” is: I hold space for myself.

Holding space is as important as breathing and eating. It empowers us to cultivate our own sense of identity and understand who we are on our own. It gives us permission to honor our inner truth.

I hold space for myself and through teaching yoga, others, and it’s the first time in my life I have felt a sense of peace and contentment. No longer am I struggling to “do” a job, I am living a life where I respect and honor my space. No longer do I feel guilty about the life I have left to set off on a journey to hold space for myself. In the process I have also found myself holding space for others as I hold space for myself, a precious gift.

When we hold space for ourselves we stand up for human being we are. We allow ourselves to know we are enough no matter what. We deserve dignity and we deserve happiness at every moment. Giving the gift of offering space is important on our journey of self-growth and transformation.

Holding space can be made a daily practice. You don’t have to completely change your life to hold space. For some, like myself, it’s my daily yoga practice. Allowing for daily reflection in which I can reconnect with my mind and body. Just like how we take a shower to wash our body from the day, we also need to take the time reconnect with our body on an emotional level as well and that comes through holding space.

From some it may be taking a relaxing walk alone, making a commitment to cook nutritious meals at home. Or even to the extent of leaving your corporate job to work on a ski resort, your true passion, or leaving graduate school to become a yoga teacher. You get to choose how holding your space looks like. Ask yourself what makes you come alive….there is your space.

About the author


Feeding The Heart is a blog and resource dedicated to empowerment for whole heart living after trauma. I'm a writer, trauma sensitive-informed yoga teacher, and a trauma survivor here to share my story and journey of holistically healing.

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