Someone recently shared with me a phrase that has impacted both of us in our own healing journey’s. It’s okay not to be okay.
To be okay with not being okay is a simple concept that is life changing in our healing journey. We don’t have to fight not feeing “right” with just need to be okay with not being okay. As we continue to heal there are going to be times where we are going to feel discouraged, hopeless, not feeling like we are making any real progress, but it is in those moments that we are transforming and growing. This is huge!
Not every day is going to be easy. At the same time not every day is going to be a battle. We need to tell ourselves it’s okay if we aren’t where we want to be. That is normal. We’re all struggling with this. We all composed of energy which manifests our emotions. We all feel the same emotions, the difference is our mindset towards them. Do we judge or label them, or do we accept them and understand it’s okay not be okay.
There are still days I feel I am going backwards. I get frustrated and upset at myself. Now I work on not placing judgment on my feelings of going “backwards”. I sit with those feelings and realize that all they are is energy and eventually it will pass. It’s okay to feel them and I actually wasn’t going backwards, I was actually growing, even in the painful and restless moments. I just placed judgment on it at the time that I couldn’t see the truth in front of me.
There are some days I wake up and tell myself that it’s going to be okay no matter what happens, because it is okay. If I want to talk about it I can. I have found the more I re-connect with myself the more I can find ways to re-connect and re-unite with the world and people around me and realize I’m never ever alone in these thoughts and feelings. It’s okay to reach out when I need some encouragement. We don’t have to struggle through this alone.
It’s okay not to understand your feelings. It’s okay to be mad at the world. It’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to not wake up happy every day. It doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong, it means you are human, beautifully human. When we begin to accept our human self for who and what we are, every single part, we come alive. We come the person we were meant to be despite our trauma.
And maybe most important learn to love yourself through this process-with your whole heart. As you learn to love yourself in your sad and happy days you begin to see that everything you are experiencing inside is a normal process. You are a beautiful and loving human being.
Today I accept myself for who I am. I know I will still have days where I am sad and angry, but I will also have days where I am happy and joyful. I will continue to celebrate my life and I will continue to grow.
This is my new mantra and I encourage you to join in too.