“Let difficulty transform you. And it will. In my experience, we just need help in learning how not to run away.” ~Pema Chodron
It’s human to feel stuck in life or even to be scared to take a new direction in life. I have felt stuck with my writing for months now. The words aren’t flowing out like they use to. Instead of blaming myself or thinking there is something wrong with me, I surrender to the transformation that is currently happening in my life.
I now realize had to go through the process internally and externally before I could write about it. I had to surrender to not knowing. I had to let go of my agenda and let life take me where I needed to go and be.
Life is not liner, but sometimes it feels easier, or a way to control, our life’s path. That there is an endpoint that leads to happiness, to peace, to understanding what our life on this earth is all about. In a way there is, but not in the way we think, but rather in the way we feel. Are we surrendering to our heart to know love even deeper?
You want to see a light at the end of the tunnel, you want to know when our pain is going to stop. It’s human. But, the truth is–your pain stays with us as long as it needs to teach you how to love yourself deeper and more fully. When you can learn to transform your pain and suffering into something with purpose and meaning you allow life to transform organically.
Some days feel like years, others feel like minutes. It’s learning not to see any part of life, especially death, as not an ending–but a new beginning. These precious moments we are given can be taken for granted because we don’t value the experience of the present moment. We don’t value the wisdom that the transitions in life are teaching us, guiding us to.
Life is transforming us every single day, but we have to surrender to the present and know that although we are transforming either physically in our bodies, or in our environment, we are also transforming in our heart. Heart transformation can be harder to grasp because we cannot see it, we can only feel it. And only we understand what is happening on a deep emotional and energetic level.
Transitions are an important part to our being. They can come with confusion, anxiety, uncertainty, but until we walk into the unknown is until we really know who we are and why we’re here. Entering into new territory, especially a transition in life is not an ending–it’s a new beginning.
We get to decide how our story continues to unfold. Will it unfold with anxiety or grace? There’s purpose in uncertainty if gently allow ourselves to go through the process.
As I took the time needed to allow the raw grief of pain to not destroy me–rather transform and rebuild me–I found that grief become the love I needed to heal me.
I found that all the transitions I entered to where opening my heart even more. They were serving a crucial purpose in my life. What I let go of what I wanted, I discovered what I needed to grow into the person that has wisdom, heart and soul to teach me the things I need to learn so I can allow myself the gift to just be.
Let the transform unfold you in a new direction. Let it teach you what you need to know and feel so you can love and live even deeper and fuller.