Riding The Waves Of Grief

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“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” ~Vicki Harrison

Embracing the topic of grief, rather than running away from it, allows me to feel less shame, more freedom and more life.

The hardest part is not knowing how long the grief, the pain, will stay. Letting go of this timeline is one of the hardest, but best things we can do for our self. When we surrender to not knowing we give our self permission to grieve in any way and however long it takes.

I allow myself to be fully present in the vulnerability of my grief however painful it comes I know I will get through it.

When we hold the grief in it becomes more painful. We don’t feel true to our self or our healing journey. We must honor our path an allow it to naturally guide you to where you belong.

Grief doesn’t have to be processed alone or silently. When we allow our body and mind to embrace grief, rather than run away from it, we welcome a community of family and friends to help us process our emotions. We are never alone in our grief.

I grieve because my heart and my soul need it. I grieve because it is a crucial part to healing. I grieve to show myself and my pain. I grieve because it’s what makes me human.

I must drop my judgments about grief and just be me.

Grief is not an easy or pretty process. It’s the opposite: messy and transforming. It’s unpredictable and lonely. It also is beautiful gift once you allow yourself to find peace and healing. It comes in waves, at unpredictable times, and all you need to know is that you will get through it. Not because you are strong, but because you are human. 

We grieve because it’s what our body needs to do to release our pain. We grieve to give our-self room to let in joy. We grieve to give our-self room to heal completely. We grieve to feel whole again. There is no shame in our healing, in our grief, there is only opportunity and possibility.

Sometimes it doesn’t feel that way and that’s okay. Our grief doesn’t have to make sense or have a reason for its existence. It presents itself whenever it wants and we must allow our grief the space and room to do exactly what it needs to do and where it needs to go.

You are a wave in an ocean of other waves. Allow the wave of grief to just be. 

About the author


Feeding The Heart is a blog and resource dedicated to empowerment for whole heart living after trauma. I'm a writer, trauma sensitive-informed yoga teacher, and a trauma survivor here to share my story and journey of holistically healing.

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