Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion. ~ Buddha
When I first began to real invest time, research and dedication into my healing almost 10 years ago I didn’t realize how much time it would take. I wanted results now. I wanted to feel better today. I wanted to be a better person. I wanted my depression and post-traumatic-stress to disappear. I wanted my past violence to be forgotten.
Well, none of that happened. As I began to realize, that’s not how it works. I was brought up in a culture that didn’t encourage healing, it encouraged talking it out and over medicating. I fell back into a cycle of self-hatred and beating myself up for not getting better, not being strong enough to “get over” my experiences. I knew if I wanted this to last I had to heal and there was no quick fix for healing.
What I realize now is that healing is a journey. When you learn to see life through the lens of being a journey, rather than a destination, you become more patient and wiser, because every day-every moment-is a new experience that is growing, transforming and healing you. It’s an empowering feeling.
I’ve met many people in the past 10 years who have impacted me greatly. They have been my teachers and guides along my road. They have encouraged me, inspired me and treated me like a human being with love, compassion and empathy.
Healing yourself is connected with healing others. ~ Yoko Ono
I met a woman the other day who said she tries to give back to her community, in particular women who are survivors of physical and sexual abuse. She said she volunteers at the safe place shelter for women even if it just means sweeping. She encourages the women to put on lipstick. She tells them how beautiful they look. She remembers what it feels like to feel ugly deep inside and she harmed herself on the outside because of it. She said sometimes all people need is some encouragement. Her small act of compassion, kindness and love is empowering those women to embark on their path of healing. When we connect with others who have been in our shoes we pass on the positive energy of hope. Sometimes it takes one person, one conversation.
If there’s one thing I have learned it’s that we are all in this together. We all need to heal. We all need to remind ourselves that this is a journey. I have found the more I open my heart to others and share my journey their hearts open and we can connect at a human level. We’re not perfect, we’re beautifully human. Every day your life can be one based on healing and love.
Here are 5 things to keep in mind to begin embracing a life on healing and self-love.
1) Healing is a journey. Enjoy it. Embrace the different roads you travels and opportunities that seek you.
2) Be kind to yourself. Sometimes our worst enemy is us. Embrace who you have become and realize that all your experiences have made you into the person you are today.
3) Focus on opening your heart on a daily basis.Your heart holds the key to transformation. Take time to listen to it.
4) Try new things. Start running, maybe eventually sign up for a 5K. Go to a movie by yourself. Take a weekend to go on a short road trip to a city you have never explored. Don’t wait for the right moment, start now! The truth is we are never going to feel fully prepared, but the point is to learn about yourself and what you are capable of. Discover who you really are.
5) Don’t take healing too seriously. Have fun. The more I learn how to love myself the more at peace I feel. The more time I give to laughing. When we allow joy and love to enter our lives on a daily basis we open our hearts, and our hearts are what heal us and allow more room for joy and compassion. Take time to discover your softness.