To Anyone Who Feels You Are Not Enough

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.  And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
~Marianne Williamson

We feel we are not enough because we measure our value by what we do or who we are by standards of society-in which leads to a never ending cycle of:  I can achieve more. I should achieve and do more. I want to be someone else. I am not worthy of love. I’m not enough.

Your worth does not need permission to exist, it’s already there-right now-waiting for you with loving and open arms and it’s never leaving either.

When you stop for a moment and begin to recognize a sense of worth by your being rather than your doing you realize you are already enough and always have been. You don’t have to do anything or be anyone. By being in the present moment you heal all the negative ideas and thoughts that your worth comes from the external where you are constantly seeking-rather than being.

When we set our own standards of what is worthy to be enough we always end up disappointed. It never becomes enough. The truth is, your worth does not come from how many degrees or titles you hold. It does not come from your failures or successes. It is not measured by the amount of friends, or lovers you have or haven’t had. It doesn’t come from what has or hasn’t happened to you. Your worth does not depend on a number or a timeline. You can claim your worth right here and right now. The only thing required is that you bring all of you-as you are right now.

If you get caught up in seeking approval, permission or love then you’ll never have a chance to discover what is in front of you: you in your loving and worthy form. Your worth has the ability to be reclaimed, but only by you.

You can’t expect to live a fulfilled life by other people’s expectations and rules. You have to learn to be your own person however terrifying that feels. You deserve to be all of you. You deserve to live the life of your dreams without sacrificing your values. You deserve to be happy. You deserve you know you are worthy of love.

The thing is everyone has felt worthless at one time or another in their life, but everyone has also had the opportunity to empower themselves. When you realize you are enough exactly as you are now it will take you to places and people you knew were waiting for you. It will open up doors, and also close a few. It will transform you. It will teach you how to be brave. It will teach you how to love with your whole heart. It will take you on the most beautiful journey of self love.

You are not a failure. You have nothing to prove to the world or yourself. There is not wrong with you. You don’t have to fix anything, you only need to be exactly who you are in the moment. Be brave. Be love. Be you.

A yoga teacher of mine once said, just love yourself. Such a simple, but powerful concept. If we choose to love ourselves we choose to find worth in ourself and make a world a better place because of it. Come with all of your baggage, your failures, your successes, your dreams. Don’t let anyone or anything allow you to believe you are not worthy to be enough. You are enough and you always will be.


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Feeding The Heart is a blog and resource dedicated to empowerment for whole heart living after trauma. I'm a writer, trauma sensitive-informed yoga teacher, and a trauma survivor here to share my story and journey of holistically healing.

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