“It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come.” ~Dali Lama
I’ve been mindfully practicing making choices from the heart and have realized quite a lot along my journey. When you begin to make decisions from your heart you life shifts. Things naturally change and transform you to support you.
It takes courage to live and choose from the heart.
We are trained to think with our mind and to make rational decisions. Making decisions from the heart seems to be only for those who have time to make whole hearted decisions. We live our lives making practical, reasonable choices and we lose our hearts voice during the process. Essentially we lose ourself and give up on our dreams to settle for a a life of predictability.
The thing is the only thing that is actually constant in life is change.
The mind is a tool to help us put together information, make plans and allow our hearts desire to become a reality. When you get too focused on the mind we lose what really matters–the heart’s calling.
Do you listen to our heart or do we hide behind it? What would your life actually look like if you made choices from your heart?
Would you quit your job? Would you have the courage to enter into a new relationship? Would you move to a new city or would you finally have the courage to enter into the profession you’ve dreamed of?
Some might say living from the heart is a fairytale, that it’s not actually possible–but why isn’t it possible? Why aren’t we living from our heart?
It all comes down to fear. Fear of judgement, of the risk, of failing, of succeeding, of living and choosing from an authentic place.
Deep down we all want to live from our hearts space.
You have permission to live the life of your dreams, to live a life based on things you love to do. You are allowed to be happy.
For many years I did not believe I was allowed to be happy, so I cut off my heart. To protect myself (and essentially survive) I made the most logical, practical decisions that I could. I put myself into a box because it was easier and one day I thought I would know myself enough to not put myself in a box.
Deep down I knew the box life was not for me, but giving it up meant giving up everything I knew. I would have to completely start over and that scared me more than anything, but I knew in the long run the risk would be worth it. It was about the journey of discovering my hearts true nature.
Deep down I felt unworthy of living a life in which I truly felt happy.
But I did it anyways, because I decided to live from the heart you must first make choices that align with your heart. My first heart desire decision was to attend my first yoga teacher training in Costa Rica. It completely transformed my life and weeks after I came back to quit what at the time was my “dream” job and I took the risk to start all over again building myself as a yoga teacher.
At the time I really didn’t know what I was doing, but it was one of the easiest decisions I ever made, because it felt so right in my body. I was swimming in uncertainty, but that felt better than holding onto a life I knew wasn’t true for me anywhere.
To listen to my heart I first had to get silent with myself. I had to let go of others expectations and my own and live my life from a place I knew was true. I could no longer compare myself to others, I had to simply just let myself be.
It took time to develop a relationship with my heart. I had to really take the time to do the things that my heart longed for me to do. I had to make space to express myself. I had to feel all of my emotions and rather than hold onto them, or judge them, I let them go and my heart just kept growing.
The heart is there to hold and support you. It has your highest good in mind and your happiness. Happiness comes from being able to love and be loved. We are all seeking the same thing in life: happiness and love. It comes from being able to make more space for our heart to grow.
When your heart expands you become better, kinder, more loving and you use your (em)power in a way that brings inspiration to others.
When you make choices from the heart you live our authentic truth. It becomes a form of self love. It becomes a form of mindfulness meditation that you can do at any time.
Next time you make a decision ask yourself, where is this coming from? My heart, my mind, society, my family or friends? Take time to sit with yourself.
When you begin to connect to your hearts desire you’ll know the feeling, because it’s the feeling of coming home to yourself.
Next time I ask you–take the time needed to choose from the heart.