Why Everything Must Fall Apart

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“Look at your mind. Be curious. Welcome groundlessness. Lighten up and relax. Offer chaos a cup of tea. Let go of ‘us and them.’ Don’t turn away. Everything you do and think affects everyone else on the planet. Let the pain of the world touch you and cause your compassion to blossom. And never give up on yourself.” ~Pema Chodron

To become a stronger and more loving person, sometimes things must not come together, but rather fall apart. This is where the strength of our heart is cultivated.

This seems tragic, but it’s part of the growth process. For things to come together, they must also come apart too. There is healing in this. This is room for blooming, but there is also room for planting and cultivating the space for the flower to blossom.

Things fall apart so they can be rebuilt. This time you have the chance to rebuild yourself in the way you always imagined. This is an opportunity for you to become the whole and authentic person you are.

Let everything fall to the ground. This is a chance for you to go deeper into yourself. What do you want to do, who do you want to be? Find a way to express yourself through your heart, because in the end the only thing that truly mattered is this: did you live through or around your heart?

Rather than try to make sense of what is happening, breath through it. Rather than react to the chaos, sit with it in stillness.

When uncertainty or confused aside in our life rather than answering quickly, sit with this. Take time to ground yourself into the earth and come back to your breath. Allow the awareness and stillness to bring you back into your body.

Many times we run away from these feelings rather than be in our body and listen to the sensations that are trying to guide us. We want to make a decision based on logic and reasoning, but doesn’t our heart have a say too?

Take the time to center your actions and choices with your heart, for this is where you will find your peace.

It is a daily practice to remain still and calm in the mist of confusion and chaos. It’s easy to only react, but try something different this time.

Simply be aware and do not judge what arises, but just let it be. Although your world may feel like it is crashing down it is actually preparing you for something marvelous. Rather than react, just let it be.

Remember, it’s okay not be okay. Be with all that is in this present moment. You are okay. You are lovely. You are growing. You are human.

All you have to do is breathe.

About the author


Feeding The Heart is a blog and resource dedicated to empowerment for whole heart living after trauma. I’m a writer, trauma sensitive-informed yoga teacher, and a trauma survivor here to share my story and journey of holistically healing.

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